Our Tribe… Our Village

I am going to be complete honest here, which I am in all my blog post. I will be the first one to let your child know they are being an ass. Well not in those words but I would tell your child the way he or she is being is not cool.

If I see your child bullying another child or my child I will let them know what is what, and that their behavior is not okay.

If your child went outside without a coat on, I would tell them to put on a coat and make smart choices.

If your child is struggling with something and I notice I will ask them what is wrong and I will be a shoulder to lean on.

If you and your child are fighting, even if its a silly fight but they feel strongly about, I will tell them to come over and be here to give you and them some space.

Why? Because it takes a village to raise the kids.

Once upon a time it was OKAY for other people to correct your kids behavior.

Once upon a time it was OKAY for other people to give a lending hand when you are not around in that moment and they are.

Once upon a time it was OKAY for other people to be there for your kids when your kids are having a tough time with you.

If my kids are being jackasses and I am not around, I want you to be able to let them know whats what and that behavior is not okay!

This isn’t about parenting other peoples kids. I am not here to take your place. Trust me 4 kids is enough for me over here. It is about us raising our future together, its about us making sure that there is a future. It’s about us raising our kids to be one day well behaved adults. This is not me bulling your child when they are doing something wrong, this is me helping.

Yes, everyone helping each other raise the kids, is a little odd to some, but that never was the case back then. Some how it got lost in translation as we grew up. I personally think that we should go back to those ways. Because yes we cant be around our kids 24 7 but other people are. Other moms are. So why can’t we all stick together and raise our kids together.

In the end we are all doing our best to raise these kids, in this time frame, which that alone is hard enough. Yes, sometimes we just need a little help from our friends, and family and neighbors.

Let’s make a tribe… Our village.

My kind of people

I am not going to lie, my house is not perfectly clean, laundry piling up and there is probably something thats been in the freezer well past its time. I am not going to lie that sometimes my children wear the same pants 3 days in a row because its easier to not fight with them.

Sometimes I wish my house looked like the perfect Pinterest or Instagram house, with everything organized and perfectly clean. Let’s be honest are they even real? But I find be I am brutally honest about myself and my house I find my kind of people. The ones the dont pretend to have it all together like me.

Thank you! Thank you for being you. Thank you for not trying to be someone else and thank you for not judging me.

There is nothing worse then walking into a place and everything in amazing, no dust, no toys everywhere no dog hair, nothing its like a staged house. It makes you feel horrible and lazy about yourself and your house and then they have the nerve to be like “sorry about the mess” “Girl what mess?” and they turn the pillow around.. that mess? pfft come on.

but then you walk into a house that its just a hot mess, their hair is in a mom bun on the top of their head, toys everywhere. I respect you! Because I get it. I get that you probably tried to pick up those toys 23049230984 times and then they end up right back where you picked them up. I bet you have been doing laundry every day and it still is piled up. Don’t worry I get it!

There is no one more beautiful to me then someone that walks around with their imperfections and owns it! Because what is perfect?? Nothing… we all have something going on, why hide it. Be YOU… always be you.

Don’t ever think that you need to pretend to be someone else, have to run around and clean up the house quickly because I am coming over. Don’t think that you need to change out of your PJs because I am coming over, Girl tell me i will come over in mine! Because lord knows I dont even want to change myself.

You know what, if we show our kids not to hide who they are, maybe they will grow up to not hide their true selves from anyone. Your friends and family and kids dont need a perfect pinterest house, They dont need a outfit that matches or all the same mugs or cups. They just need YOU.

It may be cute to have your kids all dressed in designer clothes, or all the hottest furniture of 2019. Kids grow up fast, they rather you be spending time with them instead of worrying about the house being a mess… Make that fort with them and let them play with those toys, let the sink pile up because your child wants to play cards.

I am okay with everyone seeing who I really am, because it helps me find the ones that truely understand me. The ones that Id rather be around.

I am enough. and so are you!