The realization how times have changed from when we were younger. We roamed freely. We would walk to the store along when our parents had enough of us and gave us some pennies, to grab penny candy.
We rode our bikes with our friends without our parents being right there. We wanted to walk up town for lunch, no problem.
Our parents would sit on a bench and let us play freely on the playground while reading a book or talking to their friends.
Now, modern parenting is a whole different story. It makes it hard for us ‘None helicopter moms’ we feel that we need to be RIGHT there in case of judgement.
Now parents even with older kids are hovering by the playground “oh honey, you shouldn’t use the monkey bars just in case you fall” “I will stand here while you ride your bike in the driveway”
Yes, I do realize that we are now more aware of kidnappers and people whom are bad because of social media, they were always around.
Allowing your teenager to go to the mall alone with her or his friends is out of the question. You feel guilty, you feel scared the whole time.
I find myself trying to find a balance between permissive parenting and helicopter mom.
I want my kids to be able to make those mistakes and learn their lessons but at the same time I am scared for being judged that I am not doing enough.
I struggle with all the rules that is set in place now. How our generation is ruin our kids because they should have 0 screen time, spend every single moment with them that you have, sign them up for every single spot even if they don’t like it. Celebrate every single holiday and buy them huge gifts. Wait, when did Easter become the new Christmas?
Your kids don’t get enough outdoor time. Um, I promise you if my kids could live outside in a forest they probably would.
I want my kids to have somewhat of the same childhood I did, even though I know it’s not possible now. To be completely honest trying to find a balance for that is stressing me out.
As social media gets bigger so does all the information about how we can and cannot do this and the information is back and forth.
How are we suppose to figure all this out when everything is so conflicting.
You shouldn’t have them on technology for long, yet in school that is a huge part of their learning.
You shouldn’t tell your kids that their homework is wrong, let the teacher mark it, yet you need to teach them the right answers.
You should be outside with them in your OWN backyard watching their every move, but that’s when I get my peace and able to get my housework done.
Where is the balance… where do you balance… when do we step back a little and where do we come in?
I find myself comparing everything I do to other parents, just to make sure I am doing thing’s right. Even those I know that is silly. It can drive a person mental.
The stakes are too high. There is so many rules I feel like I cannot keep up with them. I feel they are only going to get worse from here.
I can’t help but wonder if I am doing the right things, I can’t help but think am I ruining the kids by not doing or am doing these things?
Where do I find a balance?