The other day I got accused of raising a mamas boy… like somehow that is a negative thing?
“He is weak”
“He needs to toughen up”
“He is spoiled”
“He is insecure”
As I wrote mamas boy, in the search engine, most of what came up were “how to make sure your son doesn’t turn into mamas boy” “Watch for signs” Like somehow being a “mamas boy” sounds like they have a disease.
All this is completely false and garbage. Being close to your mother does not make you all these things, in fact, it is scientifically proven that because of the closeness they develop a great scene of security. Their emotions are stronger and become more independent as they grow up.
“Mamas boys” are also less prone to violence against women and have more respect for them. Boys are all-around stronger because of it, emotionally and physically.
Sadly it seems once it gets put out there on the internet or in people’s minds that, it’s tainted. People are more likely to agree with what society says then what science backs up.
As mothers we already feel guilty about so many things, we already feel judged about everything single thing we do, now we are being judged because our boys are close to us? To me that is bullshit.
Okay so let’s get a little more into the research…
In 2011 there was a study by Science daily of a mother-son relationship. They stated that a son that is not close with their mother or has a rough relationship with their mother tends to grow up as delinquents or grow up to have relationship problems and to be disrespectful towards a woman.
In 2010 There was a study by American Psychological Association stated that boys that were close to their mothers experience better physical and emotional mental health.
So if my son wants to cling to me, because I am his safety net, because the world is a scary place. I am going to embrace that.
Do not allow other people to tell you that it is wrong, don’t ever allow other people to make fun of you or your son because they feel this makes them weaker. This does NOT make your son less of a man when he is older.
Those people who continue to tell you these things are stuck in the ages where men are not supposed to show their emotions, which I promise you are obnoxious because no one wants to date a robot with zero emotions.
Loving your mother and wanting to be near your mother and help your mother around the house, does not take their ‘manhood’ away.
Your son loving you to his fullest means they respect the role you play in their life. Your son needing you means that you are doing your job as their protector.
I am going to continue to bond with my son, I am going to hold him close because time goes by fast, they grow up fast.