I am not going to be liked by everyone, and I am at the point in life… fuck it.
I am too quiet, which is their eyes means that I am stuck up and don’t want to talk, or too shy.
I am too loud, which means that I am too outspoken, I am too wild. I give my opinions to much, and I talk too much.
To some people, I am just a mom with four kids, who probably lost her mind because I have four kids. Who is a hot mess, who doesn’t have enough time to do her hair to its in a mom bum 95% of the time.
To some people, I am just a mom, who has it all together because her kids are so polite and I look like I have my head on my shoulders.
Do you see what is happening here? You are either going to be too much for someone or not enough too others. Which if you think about it I am both, quiet and loud and I am okay with this.
As women, we continue to judge ourselves so harshly because we want to fit in. We over-analyze every little thing we do. We end up wasting so much time on thinking of what other people might be thinking that we miss opportunities to really live our lives.
And for what? Why do we need approval so bad from others? Approval that no matter what we do there is always going to be someone that doesn’t like you, doesn’t like one think about you. So screw it!
This is YOUR life, This is YOUR journey, So what, you are not everyone’s cup of tea?
If you want to be a stay at home mom… do it
If you want to be a working mom… do it
If you want to do both… do it
If people don’t like the way you talk, the way you laugh, your sense of humor, screw them.
If you have dreams like becoming a singer, painter, candlestick maker, do it, chase that dream!
If you want to breastfeed, do it
If you want to formula feed, do it
If you want to wipe out your boob and feed your baby in the middle of a park, do it!
It is time to end this bullshit. Stop apologizing for who you are. Be wild, Be free!! Own the hot mess you are! Or own that you have it together!
Stop doubting the choices you make, because they are YOUR choices. People are always going to have opinions, people are always going to think they know better then you do because they have been there done that bought a T-shirt. But they are not YOU, this is your family, not theirs.
People are not going to like you and that is okay, hey some people might not like you for no apparent reason, because they can. Is this ridiculous, fuck yeah it is, but it’s okay.
Be who you were meant to be, not what others want you to be!
The ones that are there for you, the ones that are in your corner those are your people, the ones that don’t care for you at all, the ones that judge everything about you, are not your people.
And they are not worth your ever loven time.